Category: Friendships

When Seeking True Friendship

There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24(NLT)

True friends don’t come easy. They are rare and are specially bred. They are made with tough skin to accomodate your mistakes and are loyal at heart to withstand storms in your life come what may. They stick with you as you grow in life and they stand by you as you go through life. True friends are sometimes closer to you like your family member. They urge you on, help you up, overlook your errors and they keep you going in life.

True friendship is that with which Jonathan displayed towards David. It was not a friendship established on a surface level. It was a deeper level kind of friendship based on companionship, honesty, transparency, patience, mutual respect and loyalty. Their friendship was not a friendship based on the number of activities they did together or the number of favours they rendered to each other. It was beyond what they could get from each other. It was based on a special bond of loyalty and mutual respect for each other.

True friends are there on this same Christian journey with you travelling with you seeking the Lord by your side, upholding your faith together, walking in purpose as you fulfil destiny together. To have a true friend, you ought to have been one to somebody else. To have a true friend, you ought to look within and ask yourself a question, have I been a true friend to someone else lately?

A friend of mine has such a true friend. They often joke together that they were meant to be twins from the womb but something happened and one of them missed the train causing their split up to different families. Thankfully they’ve found each other on earth and they are inseparable.

True friends are made for your upliftment and not your downfall. They are meant to help mend your heart and not break your heart. They are meant to wipe away tears from your eyes and not to cause you any grief. They are there to support, encourage and honor you not to discourage or dishonour you at anytime in your life.

True friends will hold your hands in sickness and in health, in poverty and when you have plenty. They are there correcting you in love and standing by you to see you grow as you become more like Christ. You are made to be a true friend to somebody and somebody is made to be your true friend. Can you honestly say that you have fulfilled that role recently?

True friendship is that which Ruth displayed to her Mother in law, Naomi. Ruth would not leave Naomi in her darkest time in spite of her personal troubles. She was a young widow who chose to comfort an older widow. She chose to weep with Naomi, to go on a long journey with her, endured with her, was patient with her and eventually rejoiced with her. Ruth did not abandon Naomi for the age gap or the societal class between them instead she was persistent, consistent, loyal, respectful, transparent and humble.

Such true friendship between Jonathan and David, Ruth and Naomi, Elijah and Elish may be hard to come by these days, there is one thing that is certain, The Lord’s original intent is for true and genuine relationship amongst his creation. Such friendship should be geared towards one purpose in mind, to glorify God in all we do, to commune with God in spirit and in truth and to love one another with the love of Christ.

The Lord’s intention is that we keep not only good relationships but also godly relationships. The Lord created human beings to influence each other positively not negatively, For us to grow together in Christ-likeness and not childlikeness. To build good memories with one another, to share pleasant experiences with each other and not for the horrible things we sometimes do to each other.

Should you be seeking for that true and godly friendships, make the following declarations and pray them into your life through the word of God and see what the Lord will do for you.

Make a Declaration of faith with me today for true friendship

I seek first the kingdom of God and its righteous, hence true and godly friends are added unto me. I seek to walk with the godly, the righteous and honourable friends are added unto me. We walk together in righteousness, in peace and we are joyful in the Holy Spirit (Matthew 6:33)

The Lord sets his love upon me and I am blessed, happy and fortunate with loyal friends. I am blessed, happy and fortunate with true and godly friends. I am blessed, happy and fortunate with God-fearing, Christ like friends. We delight ourselves in the law of the Lord day and night, and in return, the Lord prospers our ways (Psalm 1)

I acknowledge the Lord in all my ways and He lines up godly companions for me. He will fulfil His purpose for me and perfects all that concerns me. He orders my steps and he directs my path in the way of righteousness. He makes my ways prosperous and he favours me with true friends for as long as I am committed to doing his will.(Proverbs 3:6)

Today I disassociate myself from foolish talks. I stop walking in the ways of the foolish. I am no longer a companion to the company of fools. I stay away from the angry men, backbiters and the gossip for God does not delight in them. Instead, I stay with the wise and I am wise. I seek and search for true, godly friends and the Lord orders my steps. Henceforth I attract friends who have the fear of God, who loves the Lord and obeys him in all he commands me today so that I can also grow in the love of God and in the fearof the holy one(Proverbs 13:20).

I love the Lord with all my heart, my mind and my soul. I love his children also as the Lord commanded me. I extend myself to the Lord’s children around me. Henceforth, I will deal with the Lord’s children with patience, in kindness and in gentleness for as long as the Lord gives me grace. I will show the love of Christ to the loveless and be a companion to the lonely (Mark 12:30-31)

I speak peace to my friends and they receive peace in their heart. I declare that they are truthful in their friendships/relationships, they are loyal and they find honour before the Lord. May we honour and reverence God together in our lives speaking peace to one another and reaping our rewards in righteousness (James 3:18)

I declare that I am a good friend, I am godly and I am loyal to my friends. And so are my friends also to me